Reality Check - I had it all planned out in my head
Its half year postpartum and I can’t help but reflect. I always thought that I was one of those women who didn’t care about living up to some form of image. I had it all planned out. I was only going to gain maximum 15kg and I was going to lose this 15 kg within weeks postpartum. Isn’t it crazy to think that someone who is pregnant with twins, and having a healthy normal pregnancy will only gain only 15 kgs within 9 months? And isn’t crazy to think that after planning to have a c-section that someone wants to lose 15 kgs in 8 weeks?
Didn’t the body go through so much????
Social media, TV and sometimes even the ones close to us pressure us into thinking that losing Postpartum weight occurs asap and if we don’t lose this weight quickly that we are no longer our “old selves, beautiful or acceptable”. Despite all these celebrities who seem to magically lose weight and even look better than before pregnancy would have us believe, losing weight after pregnancy is easy and all we need to do is to find time to diet, eat healthy and exercise, on the contrary losing weight takes time. Realistically speaking, our post-partum body is sometimes like “Black Hole” in outer space. We so much about it and then so little. There are so many why’s?? and unanswered questions.
- Why is it that I do everything that’s in the magazines and can’t lose weight?
- Why is it that my body is yearning constantly sugar and carbohydrates?
- Why do I seem to have the baby that cries 24/hrs?
- Why did my friend have it all together and I don’t?
- Why, why, why,
There are so many courses that prepare us for birth, that help during birth and assist after birth. But there are far too less experts, and positive role models when it comes pregnancy. Young people live for social media and un unfortunately, a lot of content on social media does not reflect reality.
Being a new parent is a learning process. We get so much advice, there are many life hacks and tools to help us cope. The fact is that every child is different and unique. The Tipp that worked for our parents wont necessarily work for us. We may have a baby who has bad luck and gets everything from gas, colic until teething etc and as such seems very cranky and fussy. This may lead to sleep deprivation and stress, which can be overwhelming and have many of us thinking that we are failing. Each day that we wake up and face the task ahead is a day that we ***WIN***. So, whenever you feel down, stressed and worry that your life has spiral out of control and that on top you look like crap. Go in front a mirror, look at yourself and repeat these words” I am not perfect, each day I wake up, get up and face the tasks ahead and that makes me a winner. Some days I may feel down, sad and depressed, I may need to take some time for a while for myself and rest. To clear my mind and re-wind and on these days, I am also a winner”.
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